Dating with Math
What do women want? A question that has been asked for centuries remains unanswered till date, often joked about.
Parallelly women also ask what do men want? They don’t know the answer either.
A fair warning, I don’t have any psychological degree or any social science degree or any training of any sort whatsoever. I am a simple software developer. I’m only sharing this because I feel I might be on to something here. Feel free to disagree and debate in comments with fair points and I will happily update my views, my post or even take it down if proven false.
So I will write this article at the risk of disappointing my 15 followers here, sounding stupid in front of my social media feed of unknown nameless faceless people but mainly at the risk of losing my job due to cancel culture. But I feel for the greater good I must write this so here I go.
So anyway I will start with women, what do women want? Here’s what a quick Google search lends us.
Moral Integrity, Romantic, Maturity, Good Sex, Rich, Ambitious, Intelligence, Looks, Loyalty.
Women like to say that they don’t care about Looks, Money and Sex. Because of this they call themselves. I can believe that they don’t care about Looks but I call their BS on the other 2. I have never seen or heard of any woman from high post falling in love and marrying an intern whereas I have seen plenty of cases where the manager falling in love and marrying with a secretary or an intern, hell I have even seen a guy divorcing his wife for a bar dancer with a kid. I have never heard the opposite. Women like to marry up. Period. And regarding the no sex thing, I have seen plenty of marriages falling apart due to lack of sex.
But anyway, regardless, I won’t get much into it. Let’s just skip Rich, Looks and Sex for the purposes of this discourse, we are left with Romantic, Mature, Intelligent, Loyal and Ambitious Man. Looks pretty normal, pretty easy, right?
Let’s take a woman A, let’s say this A person is a very social person and is in dating age. Let’s just say this person meets approximately 300, which is insanely huge number if you consider this articles below where it says you will meet 150 people, you connect with and know about them like what kind of person they are in your whole life. The dating number has to be much lesser than this, among the 150, you have some people much older than you, some much younger, some gay, some of your gender, some married, some committed, so the number has to be much less than 150. I will not split hairs here, let’s go with 300 potentially meaningful leads in your dating years. You can check here and here as to how I got to this number. Feel free to argue for or against this number. But I think I have taken a very generous number.
Back to women’s expectations now. What did they want again? Yes, Romantic, Mature, Intelligent, Loyal and Ambitious Man. They must find such a person from 300 potential leads. Most of the women I have encountered are monogamous in nature. This is a trivial but a very important point.
Alright now, fasten your seatbelts, it’s going to be a bumpy ride.
Let’s say, you find a man. What are the odds that the person is Romantic? I will assume 1/10 men are Romantic. Others don’t know what the hell they are doing.
Alright not bad.
What are the odds that a person is Mature? We will assume 1/10. Women will say and agree that most men around them are not mature, act very childish.
What are the odds that a person is Intelligent? We will assume 1/10. Women will agree, most men they come across are not intelligent.
You get the idea. In general I will grant 1/10 to each quality, again a very very generous number. In reality the numbers are much lower than this, but for the purpose of this discourse let’s go with 1/10. What is to be noted is that all of these properties are mutually exclusive. So an intelligent person for example who plays chess, a competitive exam topper doesn’t necessarily mean that he is mature and vice versa. A person who might be intelligent and mature might not be romantic and any other combinations. The point is that they are highly mutually exclusive properties. One more thing, most women are monogamous. So they don’t want one intelligent person, one ambitious person, they want all of these properties in one. So what really are the odds of finding a Romantic, Mature, Intelligent, Loyal and Ambitious Man?
The odds are 1/10 * 1/10 * 1/10 * 1/10 * 1/10 * 1/10. Comes out to be 0.000001 which means out the people you know or will know, the probability of finding the right guy is 0.000001 * 300 = 0.0003. Which means you would need to take birth 333.33 times to find the right guy. I’m being generous here. The actual number is much worse because women are clueless to this. Women might want to think about that.
Men women both are unhappy and there are physical symptoms to this on a scale that has never been seen before in history (I believe). PCOD, Erectile dysfunction, depression, etc.
What the hell happened? How did we get here? What can we do about it? What can women do about it? What can men do about it? What is currently happening? What should be happening? This might shock both men and women but even after showing you this data it will still not feel right, I have an answer for that as well. I believe we are looking at a possible end of the civilization level event. Kind of what happened to Rome.
Are we in trouble? Yes. Is there a solution. I strongly believe so. I can figuratively bet my life on it (I don’t want to die, but everything else, job, money, all my saving, losing all of my friends everything I have. I can bet it all).
There is hope, a lot of hope actually. I hope you don’t die from that much hope. Stay tuned
